I play seated, both for practice and in band. Long, long ago, when I played trumpet, the music stand never seemed to be in the way. I could play over it, off to the side of it, or some combination of the two. Whatever it was, I never thought about it and my horn had a nice open-path to the audience. Now, with my trombone, the stand always seems to be in the way. Probably because it is always in the way. And while I am heard (not always a positive

), I feel like I am blowing into the stand and not the audience (again, probably because I am blowing into the stand).
Granted, life has issues. And every player and every situation is different. But, I would like to draw upon this forum's accumulated experience. What are your ideal music stand locations/positions when everything is ideal? What are your coping mechanisms when they are not?